How To Get A Boyfriend - 13 Steps

                           

  How To Get A Boyfriend - 13 Steps

You are in your late twenties and don’t have a boyfriend. This is the problem of most of the singles these days who are indulged into their career and ignore their personal life. How to get a boyfriend is the most common question most of you would be looking for. You just have to be a little more sensitive towards your personal life.
Getting a guy in your life would be surely tricky at times. Your search for boyfriend would definitely come to an end after trying these simple ways to balance your love life and career. You don’t have to feel depressed or embarrassed for not having the Mr. Right in your life. Here are few simple ways to find a boyfriend –

1. Firstly, you have to understand and ask yourself about the likes and dislikes. Know the qualities you are searching in a guy rather than simply hanging with some one. There would be some attributes that flatters you – loving, caring, ambitious, smart and from good family.
    

2. Looking for a guy would never be a problem if you are a very social person. Try hitting the social gatherings, discothèques, pubs and clubs. You don’t have to be very desperate with your moves. Just try to be friend the guys you find attractive and suitable.
    
3. You need wait for the guy to approach you. You can always go and start the talks. Don’t be nervous and remember that – he also a human being like you. Just be confident and don’t be disappointed if he doesn’t show interest.
    
4. Try to meet him in private. You can also plan the next weekend with him. Getting to know more each other can actually be the easy way to date him.
    
5. Call him over for a coffee and don’t plan a very romantic date for your first few meets. You have to know the guy properly before you get into a serious relationship.
    
6. Exchange messages and love emails with him. Don’t be very intimate with the texts but can be little friendly.
    
7. After few weeks you can plan for a formal date and enjoy together for some dinner and exotic evening plans.
    
8. Whenever you are with him don’t be judgmental about him. And never discuss about your past relationships. This can mess everything.
    
9. Convey your feelings for him and pamper him. It is a misconception that men don’t like being pampered.
    
10. While going on your first date with him don’t be over dressed. He may be distracted by your low neckline. Just stick to the lighter moments and be comfortable with him.
     
11. Don’t expect making love during the first few dates. You can always wait for. Try planning fun activities and lone times with him.
     
12. Enjoy being with him and show your true interest. Don’t be nagging and pushy with your talks.
     
13. Stay in touch through SMS, mails, greetings and personal meets. You can get a good boyfriend only if you are sincere with your moves.

Homemade With Love

Homemade With Love 

If you're strapped for cash, why not consider something a little more heartfelt and personalized? Homemade gifts are a unique and creative way to show your partner that you really "get" them. You can incorporate their hobbies and interests in ways that a purchased gift never could. Below are some great ideas for handmade gifts from other LYC readers to help get your "creative juices" going.

A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words
My girlfriend and I were at different colleges, so I didn't get to see her except on holidays. For our anniversary, I wrote her a note. At the top I put, "Some people say a picture is worth a thousand words. I can't take a picture with you... so guess what?" Under that, I wrote out how much I loved her and missed her using exactly a thousand words. I put the note in a picture frame and sent it to her in the mail. She loved it!
--submitted by Untouchable

A Story About Us
I did this for my guy, and it was truly enlightening! It always helps if you have some theme, for example: you have gone to the snow together. You make a collage of pictures, notes, emails, etc. Then write a story (through captions) about the theme. It really shows how much the time together meant, and it's creative! You can even make a storybook from a collection of pictures or memoirs you have saved.
--submitted by Rami

Paper Flower Bouquet
While my partner is very dedicated to our new "buying a house" budget, I know that she misses the bouquets of flowers that I have always spoiled her with. So instead, I have been learning how to fold all different kinds of paper flowers from instructions that I found on the net. The first time I had a bouquet of the paper flowers sent to her she was blown-away. Now she looks forward to receiving the paper flowers as much as she did the real things.
--submitted by Anonymous

Breakfast in Bed Tray
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years now, so I wanted to do something extra special for this Valentine's Day. Every year I make breakfast for him, but this year I decided to add something new. I went to the local craft store and bought a wooden breakfast tray. I painted it his favorite color and put different things that we had done together in the bottom. I poured glue over the bottom to seal up the pictures, so I could serve on it without ruining the mementos. I wrote special memories around the edge and a special message on the bottom. It only cost ten dollars to make and the memories will last forever!
--submitted by LMR

Build Your Own Lamp
I didn't have very much money to spend on a birthday present for my girlfriend, but I really wanted to show her I care about her. She loves the movie Monsters Inc., and she calls me "Her Kitty." With that in mind, I bought a talking stuffed figure of the character from the movie and a do-it-yourself lamp kit. I cut a little hole in the back of the stuffed animal, slid a metal stand rod and wires under its back, with the light and lampshade just above his head. I pulled it low and glued his hand to it, so it looked like he was looking out from underneath the lamp shade, like a scene from the movie. She was so surprised that she started crying, and to this day the girls at her work still remember me as the guy who made the cutest lamp for his girlfriend.
--submitted by Kenny

I Love You T-Shirt
For a cute cheap idea, buy a plain white t-shirt, and then get a bunch of permanent markers and washable markers. Come up with a bunch of reasons why you love this person. Write I LOVE YOU with a red permanent in the middle or on the top left side. Then write all of the reasons why or what you love about someone. Give it to them and tell them to wash it. When they wash it, all of the things you love about them will wash away, but the I love you will always be forever. Give them the markers and let them return the favor.
--submitted by Tweeky

Personalized Memories Frame
My husband and I have been together for three years. For a gift, I bought a $1.00 picture frame. I took things that represented our relationship and glued them all around the frame. For example: a nail (because he is a roofer), a butterfly (because I like them) and so on. In the frame, I put a picture of us together. It is a very inexpensive, personal gift that was fun to make. He keeps it on his desk and says it reminds him of all the good things in our marriage.
--submitted by Alexandria

Quotes And Love Letter Pillow
My boyfriend loves pillows and cuddles with them when I'm not around. I had a great idea. I went to Wal-Mart (you can also go to any place that sells fabric) and bought a pillow. Then I bought a bunch of fabric leftovers that they sell really cheap. I also got a fabric pen and some pretty ribbon. I cut out squares and on each one, I wrote why I loved him, lyrics and poems that reminded me of him, and other sweet things like that. I sewed it all together, trimming it with the ribbon. On the front, I sewed a heart pocket on and put a letter in it. I slept with the pillow for a couple of nights so it would smell like me and I gave it to him. It's his favorite pillow and he sleeps with it at all times. Plus, he didn't realize I was so creative!

                                      

      The Truth About Why Men Cheat

Team up on your to-do list:What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife's point of view. Wouldn't it make more sense to ask the guys? he thought. So for his new book, The Truth About Cheating, Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity - including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings:

48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. "Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked," Neuman says. "But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness - and once you set the tone, he's likely to match it."

66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.
The implications are a little scary: It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your husband swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the marriage you want.

77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it. You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values - it'll create an environment that supports marriage.

The Rules To Love: Preventing Affairs

 

The Rules To Love: Preventing Affairs

Each week, I sit down to answer my weekly batch of requests for advice. Within a few moments I will invariably unearth the most common relationship problem I’ve encountered in my time at Lovingyou.com. Wondering what that could be? It seems that over two-thirds of the lovesick and forlorn have problems staying faithful to their partner. I don’t mean actual intercourse affairs, but rather what I’d like to refer to as the silent killer, affairs of the heart.

Discovering this fact is not what is most disconcerting to me. The real problem I have is that it is a very rare encounter when someone will actually give this extra-relationship interest the proper weight it deserves. No one seems to ever connect their relationship problems with the fact they have begun an outside interest. It seems impossible to me to be able to ignore the fact that if you are having problems AND you feel you are, or may be, interested in someone else that there is some type of correlation. Usually, you’ll find the reason for the problems in the current relationship are BECAUSE of the extra-interest. Not the other way around as so many would like to convince themselves is true.

I could truly go on a very self-indulgent rant on this issue, but that won’t change the current climate of romance. What will is a recognized and followed agreement to adhere to some particular procedure when it comes to matters of the unfaithful heart. You can’t always control your heartstrings when they are being pulled in a different direction. But, you can make sure you are keeping your love affairs ethical and distinguished, something severely lacking in relationships in this era.

So, I propose a solution for tender hearts everywhere, the “Rules of Love for Preventing Affairs.” It incorporates all of the advice I have been giving for the last six years on this site regarding affairs. I believe one of the best ways to be happy is to know you’ve taken preventative measures against unhappiness. Knowing how you or your partner will behave in a certain situation gives you a certain sense of confidence and freedom in your relationship that many don’t experience.

With your partner, talk about the following steps and how you feel about them. Is there anything you would add to them? Can you both agree to follow them? If not, why? The important thing is to talk and find something you both agree on.

Finish this sentence as applies to your relationship:

Being involved with someone else means:
a) you are engaging in a physical intimate relationship with someone outside of your current one and/or
b) you are engaging in a mental intimate relationship with someone outside of your current one and/or
c) you have an emotional interest (from the past or present) towards someone outside of your current relationship.

RULES OF LOVE: AFFAIRS

Do NOT become involved with another person if you are currently committed to someone else. Don’t bend the situation to justify your actions. If the person you are with expects you to be with only them, then do that.

If you become interested in someone else:

1. Cease all contact with them until you have resolved the problems with your current relationship.
2. Find out why your interest towards your current partner has waned.
   a. Are you spending enough time with each other?
   b. Are you looking for an escape or a start over type relationship because of too much bad history?
   c. Has an outside interest allowed you to think less of your partner?
3. Decide whether this is repairable.
   a. Have you talked about your problems?
   b. Can you find a solution through an outside source?
4. If repairable, do what is necessary to properly fix your current problems and take measures to avoid them from happening again.
5. If not, repairable, leave your current relationship.
   a. Do not see the person you were interested in for at least 30 days after you are on your own again.
   b. If you still feel you may be truly interested in starting a relationship with this person make sure you take things slowly and that you have truly discovered what factors contributed to the demise of your previous relationships. You don’t need to keep making the same mistakes repetitively.

Star-Crossed

                                                   
                                                  
                                                                Star-Crossed


Dear ......

I do not know where to begin, so I guess this is just as good as any .... Right now I'm thinking about you, and it's funny how thoughts of you fill my day, my heart, and my mind. I know just like you know, that you love me. And it's crazy because I love you too. But, you have that person in your life, which you think is the one for you, but you and I both know that that person is not for you. You and I have connected on such a higher level, our souls have exchanged caresses and our hearts beats and I can't understand why you would value someone who will not give you forever.

I have tried to look at your situation as a friend and give you honest advice but it has gotten to the point where it is consuming me. There is nothing that I wouldn't do for you. Everything that I feel runs so deep that I don't care about your past and all the things you've done that you feel you should be ashamed of, because it's unconditional and it will always be here for you. I don't want you to wake up days, months, or years from now, wondering what would have been or could have been. It just doesn't make any sense to me how you could waste so much time on someone who doesn't deserve you. I know I shouldn't cry, that I should be the strong woman that I put myself out there as, but you break me down to the deepest recesses of my soul. And once I bare myself to you without all the superficial, all the talk, you already know what lies underneath. I know you see the love that I feel for you, so why do you ignore it? It just hurts so much to have your everything see you as nothing. Maybe one day I'll be something to you.

Smitten With You

Smitten With You

Dear ..........                                                                                                                               

I am writing with the earnest prayer that my attention will meet favorably with you. I don't know quite where to begin. Let me start by saying, simply, I am smitten with you. Your coy smile that belies your seductive plan. The lips that kiss with such fervor that I fear my heart will beat out of my chest upon touching them to mine. The soft, sweet tongue that pulls me into that vortex of passion you generate from deep within. That luscious mane of hair that you toss so playfully. Your ... no, I've said enough. Nay, too much I fear. I've exposed my hidden self, opened him to you a bit more than I wished, but cannot stop.

I fear I must restrain further encounter or I will be incurably addicted to your potion of 'extreme' womanhood. That intoxicating elixir you've poured over me is slowly insinuating into my very pores.

From afar I've waited and just out of reach you kept yourself but now, with closeness of the most sublime, you are there. My arms vividly recall enfolding you, describing your body with sensations that still linger in a billion nerve endings. Your aroma, your taste, the smoothness of your bronzed skin, your laugh, the twinkle of your eyes, your energy transferred in ways you could never realize; it all is too much. You make me drunk and unable to use my senses correctly. I stumble, I stutter, I tremble in your presence; blinded by some ethereal aura that you radiate with such innocence and youthful unwariness.

I've said enough now. Please forgive my words if they offend or embarrass. I await your next syllable like the birds await spring.

Bridge Over Troubled Water

Dear............                                                                                                                                  

I know at times I act crazy and do stupid things. I know at times I get things started. I also know that even when we are arguing or mad at each other, we still love each other. Some people would say that we are not going to make it, if they could ever hear us argue because, well, we can get harsh, but they do not know us. Baby, nobody knows what I have had to do to get where I am. Nobody knows what you had to do to get where you are. Nobody knows us, except for us. Baby, nobody knows about the things in my past that I had to overcome to trust you. Nobody knows what you had to overcome. Nobody knows about how scared I was of you because of what one person did to me. So many people think that I am crazy for falling in love with you, but how can they judge someone that they do not know?

It mystifies me how so many people can try to tell me what I need when they do not even know me. It hurts that the people who are supposed to know me, try to take my happiness away. You know about my past, you know that I have a hard time trusting, and you know that at times it is hard for me to put my feelings into words. I know that we have problems, but we always work them out.

Everyone sees you as the person that you used to seem like, but you are far from it. You have treated me better than people that are in my family. You brighten my life. You are my life. Every promise that you have made me, you have kept. You always know when something is wrong and you always know what to do to cheer me up. You were there for me at the time that I needed you most. You were there when nobody else was. You were my bridge and my problems were my troubled water.

Baby, I am writing this to tell you that I love you more than anything and I would do anything to be with you for the rest of my life ... our life. Thank you for waiting for me - waiting for me to give my heart to you. Today, I want you to know that I am starting over ... we are starting over. I want us to be happy. I know that even the "best" couples have their problems, but I do not want our problems to hurt us in any way. I do not want my bridge to "fall." Baby, today I promise that I will do everything that I can to keep us together.

Reflections Of You

 

Dear ......                                                                                                                                            

Wow! So here I stand, among the digital masses. See, Ruth? We're not so different after all. Here I stand, surrounded by people who've met on-line, People who've loved and lost, and people who are found, and somehow, in a desperate world, found each other.

So what do I say that hasn't already been written, or been already said? Hmmm, pretty tough! Okay... try this: I no longer need to hope for love by going to clubs, (y'know I can't dance!) supermarkets, church socials, by passing notes in class as a kid, or instant messages as an adult. I don't have to search for love, in ads, on the internet, in chat rooms, text messages, camera phones, faxes, and e-mails. I don't have to wait for good and bad feedback, have to need a good laugh, wait to talk, be told to shut up, look for hope, pray for a miracle, wait for an angel, see hope for God's love here on earth, wish for a special friend, crave for love's passion, envy other's romance or wonder if someone will ever love me. You're here; I'm done.

Love always,

Love Is Magic

                                                           

Love Is Magic                                                                    

 

Dear........                                                                        

I wonder what would have become of me if you were not right with me. Your love is the sunshine that shines every day of my life; you are the rain that showers in my soul ... love is a magic; it works like a miracle. Your love is magic, I am so glad to be with you.

Love always,                                                                   

                                                         

                       Happy New Year, Baby!

Dear Heart of Mine,

I want to be at your side, to let go of the past with the passing of the old year and to embrace with you a future as we enter the new year. I want to forever be at your side, to love you and to argue with you, to laugh with you and to cry with you, to share with you and to dream with you. As we enter into a new phase in our lives, I want to be the one you love and make love to, as I will love you and make love to you. I want to be the one who cares for you when you're sick and to be the one you take care of.

As I do now, I will be the one who loves you like no other could ever possibly do. We share a connection that goes deeper than anyone has ever known. The road that we have walked together so far has not been an easy one, but you have proven to me, many times over, the kind of man that you are by walking it with me, at my side, spiritually if not physically. You have shown to me a commitment and devotion unequaled by any man. I want to give that back to you for the rest of our lives.

We will share in a life of passion and commitment and love unparalleled. We will cross the bridges of troubled waters together and we will laugh and play together under the sun for many years to come. Others will look at us and pray to one day find that kind of love. We will be the couple, who into their 80's (and beyond) who will still hold hands and share in a kiss in public. The love and devotion will shine around us like a beacon of hope for others.

I have given to you my love, my heart and my soul. I will give to you my life, my compassion and my spirit. Should ever you feel weak, lean on me and I will be your shelter from life's troubles. Should ever you feel sad, come to me and I will help you to smile again. Should ever you feel anger, bring it to me and I will help you to find the compassion and forgiveness in your soul. If ever you should feel lost or afraid, step into my arms and let me lead you home to my heart again. And from this night forward I will love you with all that I am or ever could be, for without you I am nothing.

You are the vastness in my universe. You are the sun and the light which guides me thru the darkest of times. You are the moon and the stars that lend me my dreams. You are my hope when all seems lost, and you are all that I could ever dream of. You are my heart my soul and my spirit.

As the old year ends and the new year begins, take all that I offer to you and hold it dear to you. Keep my heart safe within your soul as I will keep your heart safe within my own soul. From now until all life ends. You are me and I am you, together we are one and I will love you forever.

Love always,