This New Year

This New Year

This New Year, give your love the gift of cherished memories. Make him a book to remind him of the year’s vacations, holidays, hikes, and even the lazy Saturday mornings that you hold dear to your heart.

Get Creative With What You Have Saved

Secretly create your masterpiece as a gift or gather your special mementos and make a date for you and your partner to make the book together.

Paste photos into an album and accent the pages with ticket stubs from that time at the movies, a dried flower from the bouquet he sent you on Valentine’s Day, the menu from your favorite rainy day dinner delivery restaurant, and your receipt for your contribution to Idol Gives Back that you both felt compelled to join in on.

A fun addition to any scrapbook or photo album is personal photo captions. Make them out of little strips of paper, mini-note cards or sticky notes. The captions can be for more than just photos. If you have a love note that your partner wrote you during the year, remember how it felt to read it for the first time. Write your reaction on a caption note and stick it on the letter in your book.

If you’ve been keeping a love journal or a personal journal and would like to incorporate an entry from it, copy it onto decorative paper paste into your memory book.

If you don’t feel like you have an ample amount of memorabilia and photos for your book, go back to places you’ve had good times this past year and collect them. For example, drive down to a restaurant you guys had a good time at. Take photos of the table where you sat, the bottle of wine you discovered there, or the sign on the outside of the building. Pick up a take-out menu, coaster or business card as well.

Memory Books Can Have A Specific Theme

If the two of you are into a specific hobby, you could make that your central theme. Cut out newspaper clippings having to do with your interest. Get scrapbooking stickers in your theme to decorate your pages and find famous quotes to write in.

Memory Book Cookbook
My boyfriend and I both love spending the night planning out a big meal. We hold hands while we go to the grocery store, pick out everything we need and then go back to his house to prepare and cook it together. This is our first Christmas together and I got him a "scrapbook" type photo album. On the first page I put a torn out recipe from a magazine that we enjoyed one night, and a pictures of us in the kitchen all messy and in the middle of a meal. It became a scrapbook of our relationship, to add more recipes and memories to as we continue cooking through the years together.
--submitted by Ashley

The “Love Book”
My sister-in-law and my brother made a book we all call the “Love Book.” It is full of song lyrics that they have written for each other and photos of them both, some silly, some beautiful. Some are pictures of them together, while some are individual. It is done in a scrapbook style with words like “love” and “forever” scattered throughout. Her husband gets embarrassed when someone new looks through the book, but you can tell that he loves it. We joke that if anyone ever wonders what she’s doing with him, just flip through the book and you will understand.
--submitted by MsNewlywed

Make A Digital Memory Book

Use Microsoft Movie Maker or similar software to turn still photos of the year into a slideshow set to your special song. PowerPoint is another fun way to compile your photos. You can add animation, notes, captions and sound to your memories presentation. If video is more your style, take clips from home movies and compile them into a home movie montage of your loving family.

it's important to remember that

it's important to remember that

The money factor is one of the most common sources of contention in a relationship. How you deal with hard times can either make or break you as a couple. While we as a nation may be in a time of economic hardship, your relationship doesn't need to suffer because of it. With a little creativity and these three rules, you can use this as an opportunity to strengthen the friendship and intimacy that binds you together as a couple.

Rule #1: Your Relationship Always Comes First
When dealing with any type of stressful situation, it's important to remember that you are a couple. What one person says or does affects the other. If you're stressed out, make sure you're talking about it with your partner. Don't bottle it up and expect things to "just get better." Your partner knows when something's up, so get rid of the guesswork and talk it through together. Two heads are always better than one when it comes to creative thinking.

Rule #2: Keep Having Fun
It's easy to let things in the fun department slide when life starts to get stressful. However, this is a crucial mistake. It's these types of situations where laughter and emotional escapes from your daily life are needed most. A little ingenuity may be just what you needed to "look on the bright side" and find a solution or different perspective for your current situation. Here are ten ideas to get you started.

• Water Gun Fight
• Game Night
• Spend the Night Coloring
• Test Drive Cars
• Rearrange Furniture In Your House
• Start A Garden
• Photograph Each Other
• Collage a "Dream Board"
• Picnic and People Watch
• Design Your Ideal Home

Rule #3: Have A Common Goal
To keep a group of people focused in the same direction, they have to have a common goal they are working towards. The same is true for a couple in a relationship. If you are both aimlessly living your everyday life without direction, it's quite likely you'll end up either in different places or somewhere you didn't want to be. Have a talk together and talk about your one year, five year, and ten year goals and ideals. You need to have something you are both working towards together, even if it's something as simple as planning a summer vacation or getting a new car.

What's worked for you as a couple during tough times?
Share your thoughts and ideas in our comments area below!

The best way to train him

 The best way to train him

Don’t let another night go by wishing and hoping that your man would get it right. Pleasing a woman takes knowledge and understanding. More than likely, your man would give anything to rock your world, he just doesn’t know how. Teach him how to please you by following our super sexy lesson plans. No need to share your plan with him; it will be our little secret.

You are about to embark on a serious training project and like any endeavor of this sort, it requires a good plan. One thing to keep in mind throughout the process is that you are training a man, and it calls for a bit more finesse than training say, a child, a dog, or an athlete. The best way to train him is to never let on that there is anything wrong. Instead, he should believe that you are expanding the adventure of your already wonderful lovemaking. In addition, secret planning will enable you to implement one of the most useful pieces of man-training: turning the neck. You have heard the metaphor that the man may be the head of the house, but it is the woman, as the neck, that turns the head in the direction she desires.

Smart women have figured out that if you allow a man to think that he came up with his ideas all on his own, he will be much more committed to following through with them. One of the key differences between a man and a woman is his need to be appreciated as a mastermind, a fixer, and a great lover. He actually needs that confirmation to retain his pride as a man. Women don’t need the ego confirmation like a man does. They need to be cherished, adored and respected. Play your womanly hand in this game of love and greatly increase both your chances of winning.

To begin training your husband, you will need to choose which lesson you would like to start with. You don’t want to overwhelm him with too much at the same time; it is too easy to slip up and make him feel bad about himself. You might choose to work on foreplay first, or it might be what he does or doesn’t do during sex, or maybe it is the lack of adventure in your sex life that you choose to tackle first. The next step is to choose your angle. Here are a few options:

• Take a love quiz like this one or this one together. It will open up conversation about what things you always wanted to try, what things really turn you on, etc.
  
• Open up a conversation by asking him about his desires first. Ask him what he really likes, what he would like more of, and what he’s always wanted to try. The conversation should then turn to what you really like, what you want more of, and what you’ve always wanted to try.
  
• Go out to dinner and have a few drinks. Then, as a “spur of the moment idea,” share your sensual wish lists with each other, writing down things you both hope to experience on cocktail napkins so you can look at them again the next day.
  
• Tell him what you want him to do in the heat of the moment. The closer a man is to climax, the more appeasing he is, so take the opportunity when he is hot and ready to tell him something you wish he would do. Say it in a super sexy way and refrain from criticizing him in any way. Say something like, “Oh baby, you feel so good… I want you to _____.”
  
• Mention something you’d like to experience when the two of you are doing something totally non-sexual, taking him by surprise with your non-shalant attitude. Imagine driving home from the grocery store and mentioning out of the blue that you have been imagining what it would be like to do it on the kitchen counter or wondering what it would be like to buy a sex toy together. That leaves it in his court, and odds are that you’ll have that fantasy come true before the week is out.
  
• Introduce your desires and fantasies by construing a little fib, “A friend told me a story today at work. You wouldn’t believe what she tried with her husband last night…” or “I stumbled on an article about something interesting today and it made me so hot, imaging us doing it. It was all about ____” or “I had the hottest dream about you last night. You were _____.”
  
• Set up a role play rendezvous where you are in charge. You could be a sex instructor or dominatrix. That way, you can tell him what you want him to do and he will love the idea of being “schooled” by a hot sex master!
  
• Challenge him. Bring out his competitive nature with a sexy challenge. One idea, if you are sick of the hum drum five minute lay before bed, is to tell him that you will have sex with him anywhere, anytime, as long as it is not on your bed. Another idea is to make a game with him, a challenge of who can take the reigns and create the hottest sexual encounter. You each make a short list of things you want and swap lists. Include four or so things that you like that he does already and four more things that you want him to do. Don’t tell him to do the same, though. Let him put whatever he wants on his list, so he doesn’t feel like this is a project to make him better in bed, but just a fun encounter to have. Roll dice to see who gets the first night and have a blast playing out your challenge and see whose rendezvous works out best!

Whichever angle you choose, just make sure that you encourage him to lead you just as much as you lead him. He needs to feel like an equal participant in pleasing you, and after he’s trained, you won’t have to try! In addition, don’t treat every opportunity as a training exercise. Let the lessons go once in a while. The goal is to make him a better lover without damaging his self-esteem. After all, it is a well-known fact that confidence is the most important element to attraction. If you knock down his self-esteem, you won’t ever turn him into the perfect love machine.

You don’t always need an angle. Definitely shake things up a bit. Remember that you are choosing one lesson at a time and you should try different approaches often so that he doesn’t begin to feel like his manhood is being challenged. Your training will go a whole lot smoother if he just sees you as being extra adventurous, not out to change his ways. Some secrets are worth keeping…

Find sexy ways to let him know what you want from him.

• Talk to him sweetly, using your bedroom voice. Whisper what you want in his ear, but do it kindly. For example, if he is pounding you like a jack rabbit, tell him that you want to “feel him more, slowly.”
  
• Give him physical clues to what you would like. For example, if you want him to handle your breasts more, put them right in his face. Men can’t help but grab onto bouncing boobies.
  
• If you want him to alter the way he does something, try doing it to him first. It won’t take long for him to get the hint that you are giving him. If that alone doesn’t get him doing what you want, show him how you like it by guiding him. Move his hands or body and tell him, “Like this.” Telling him how you like it while it’s happening instead of criticizing afterword makes it more of an erotic experience than a “schooling.”

You need to teach your guy what you like. Encouraging him when he’s doing it right is the most effective training method. It is called positive reinforcement and it is the essence of man-training. During love-making is the perfect opportunity for it because it is the time when he is most receptive. Memorize these tips like the back of your hand and use them every chance you get through the training process and after. A man can never get enough positive reinforcement.

• Let your inhibitions go and your vocals loose. The tiniest inkling to let out a moan or tell him “yes” and you should let it out. Scream if you feel like it, men love it.
  
• Don’t over-reward. Make your reaction in direct ratio to the amount of pleasure he is giving you. Most of this will come naturally of course, but it doesn’t hurt to keep it in mind while you are on the mission to train.
  
• Tell him that you really like what he’s doing and that you want to try it in a different position, in a different room, slower, faster, or whatever you want. The key part is to reinforce that you like what he is doing already and that you want more.
  
• If he really knocks your socks off, let him know by returning the favor. Blow his mind by doing something you know he loves. It may sound a bit impersonal, but a man’s mind works that way sometimes. This sort of reward system, if done properly, buries in his subconscious and he will associate doing what you like with getting what he likes.

The last stage of each lesson should be feedback. Voice a reaction to your lovemaking session, but do it with finesse. Use the tips below to close each chapter of training in such a way that his ego is in tact and you are that much closer to having the best sex of your life.

• It doesn’t have to be a formal discussion. In fact, the more casual your feedback is, the more he receptive he will be. For example, you could tell him, “You know, honey, I loved it when you ____ and I was thinking that next time, we could ____” and gently tell him what it is that you want from him.
  
• Be open and willing to talk about your desires with him, but make sure you are inquiring about his desires just as much.
  
• Don’t always have suggestions. Give him a lot of encouragement by telling him how hot the sex was, how much you keep thinking about him touching you, etc. Again, don’t pretend to feel that way if you don’t, but there are surely things you could pick out of every experience to praise him for. He needs compliments just as much as you do.
  
• Once in a while, it’s ok to give him a little sting. If he is doing something that drives you nuts, you may have to come right out and say it. Just make sure that when you do, he feels very loved and assured before and after. You don’t want to tack a sting onto a lesson already in progress. Let things ride for a while, then break the news, and then give him a while to get over the blast before resuming your lessons.

Be patient with your lover. Take one lesson at a time and give him a chance to master it before moving onto the next one. He wants to be the ultimate lover just as much as you want him to be.

new romantic nickname

 new romantic nickname

All Mine
Angel
Angel Baby
Angel Bunny
Angel Eyes
Angel Face
Angel Girl
Babe
Babes
Baby
Baby Angel
Baby Bear
Baby Boo
Baby CakesCutiehead
Darling
Darlington
Dear
Dearest
Dearest One
Dearheart
Deep Waters
Devil
Dimples
Doll Face
Doodle Bug
Dove
Dreamlover
Firecracker
Firefly
Fluffy
Goose
Gorgeous
Gumdrop
Gummie Bear
Handsome
Hon
Honey
Honey Bear
Honey Bee
Honey Bunch
Honey Bunny
Honey Buns
Honey Lamb
Honey Lips
Honey Love
Honey Muffin
Honey Pie
Honey Plum
Hot Honey
Hot Mama
Hot Stuff
Hotcakes
Hottie
Hubby Wubby
Ironman
Kit Kat
Kitten
Lady Bug
Lemon Drop
Little Kinky
Little Mama
Little Monkey
Little Muppet
Lollipop
Love
Love Angel
Love Bear
Love Bug
Love Heart
Love Muffin
Love Nugget
Love Sponge
Loveable
Lovealump
Lovebird
Lover
Baby Doll              
Baby Doodle
Baby Face
Baby Girl
Baby Love
Babycheeks
Babylicious
Bad Kitty
Beautiful
Big Daddy
Big Guy
Big Kitty
Blue Eyes
Boo Bear
Boo-Boo
Boogie Bear
Boy Toy
Braveheart
Bright Eyes
Brown Sugar
Bubba
Bubbles
Bunny
Buttercup
Butterfly
Butterscotch
Canoodle
Captain
Captain Underpants
Care Bear
Cheesecake
Cherry Pie
Chickadee
Chocolate
Chocolate Bunny
Chocolate Drop
Cookie
Cool Breeze
Cowboy
Cuddle Bear
Cuddle Bug
Cuddle Bunny
Cuddle Cakes
Cuddles
Cupcake
Cupid
Cuppy Cake
Cutie
Cutie Pie
Cutiehead
Darling
Darlington
Dear
Dearest
Dearest One
Dearheart
Deep Waters
Devil
Dimples
Doll Face
Doodle Bug
Dove
Dreamlover
Firecracker
Firefly
Fluffy
Goose
Gorgeous
Gumdrop
Gummie Bear
Handsome
Hon
Honey
Honey Bear
Honey Bee
Honey Bunch
Honey Bunny
Honey Buns
Honey Lamb
Honey Lips
Honey Love
Honey Muffin
Honey Pie
Honey Plum
Hot Honey
Hot Mama
Hot Stuff
Hotcakes
Hottie
Hubby Wubby
Ironman
Kit Kat
Kitten
Lady Bug
Lemon Drop
Little Kinky
Little Mama
Little Monkey
Little Muppet
Lollipop
Love
Love Angel
Love Bear
Love Bug
Love Heart
Love Muffin
Love Nugget
Love Sponge
Loveable
Lovealump
Lovebird
Lover

I will never stop loving you

 I will never stop loving you

Hi Sweetheart, I wanted to do something special for you since your birthday is tomorrow; I wanted to do something simply to show you how proud I am of the love I have for you and that I'm not afraid to announce it to the world. I want the world to know how I love you and how much you mean to me. Every day my love for you grows and it gets stronger and stronger. It's such an overwhelming feeling to be this much in love.

I know I don't tell you everyday, but you are the most beautiful girl I know, both on the inside as well as the outside. Your beauty is so captivating! It's not even possible for me to stop thinking about you even for a minute; you are always on my mind. You do something to me... something so indescribable there are no words that I can say that can even give you the slightest clue as to how much I love you. You have truly made me the happiest man on earth; I have never ever been happier in all my life. I have no clue as to what I did to be so, so lucky and I will be eternally grateful for you and the love you give to me. I will never stop loving you.

from the bottom of my heart

             

                                             from the bottom of my heart
Betsy, it should be emphasized that the kind of love existing in our relationship is void of fantasy or a whirlwind romance. If you don't know, my love for you isn't the comparative analysis of "M&B" stories or any other fictional romance. But this is the love that is enveloped with the seal of reality without any shadow of doubt.

Not that there are no other fish in the ocean upon whom I can sling my hook, but who can be like my dear Betsy that loves me with such generosity of heart? I love a hand that meets my own with a grasp that causes some sensation and which only your's can do. I love you not only because of beauty but for your sense of decency, delicacy, kindness and other complementary qualities. I can't help doting on you. Therefore all my gestures of love towards you come straight from the bottom of my heart, I swear!

Sometimes

         

Sometimes

Sometimes, I can't express to you the way I really feel inside. There are times I want to write poetry, or sing a song but they just say some of what my heart wants to tell you. I sat down behind my desk at work today and decided to write you a letter. I am just an island girl who life is very different from yours ... because you are in a state miles away but our love will conquer all.

You tell me to believe in our love and allow it to grow but sometimes it's so hard when you have so many doubts. You live in a city where the most beautiful women live and I am just one woman hundreds of miles away. It saddens my heart and sometimes I cry because I want to be with you and I don't know what to say or how to tell you what hurts me so deep inside. I know you are successful and I am so proud of you and for who you are, Sweetheart. But, like you, I will try and believe that our love will conquer all.

I wrote you this letter to tell you how much I care, and if you ever needed me, Baby - please know I will be there. I may not be the most beautiful woman in the world but my heart is filled with gold. I know our friendship will continue to grow strong and we will conquer all obstacles placed between us. You make me feel so special and it overwhelms my heart to know there is a man who thinks highly of me. I will ask of you, to take it slow with me and let's grow in love, unity and respect. Miles separate us and our culture is not alike, but we have fun together and share similar interests and you have my back. So sweetheart I will try harder and never give up because I pray our love will conquer all.

Love Always,

three years ago

                         

                                                                                                 

                   

                                                                     three years ago


Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would meet a woman that could captivate and win my heart at "Hello". Every moment from when I wake up till deep in the night, there is no place on earth I would rather be than holding and kissing you tenderly.

You are a special woman with unique and intriguing qualities that drive my desire for you far beyond any imagination. Never in my life until the day I met you have I wanted to bring a child into this world, share everything, offer all my love unconditionally, and grow old with someone to one day reminisce of the years we shared together. Just the thought of offering my total heart and spending my life cherishing every moment with you, brings these incredible emotions to me I have never experienced before.

The worse day of my life was letting you slip out of my life three years ago because the timing just was not right for either of us, but second chances do not come too often in life. I will not go on another day without giving us a true chance at a life with love and happiness I know we could embrace together.

A wise man once told me, "When it is real, you will know," … I know.

You molded me

You molded me

 

I love you more than words could ever express. From the moment I saw you I had to have you. Although I was only a young girl you taught me how to express myself as a true woman. You taught me everything I know about loving someone. You molded me into something rare and beautiful. Now that eight years have passed, our love has only grown. Everyone looks at our relationship and are jealous because we are an example of pure love, and not lust. When you touch my body, my heart seems to explode and this is why I love you.

I laid eyes on you

I laid eyes on you

When I met you, my life could not have been in a worse state. My heart had been broken too many times to count and life just didn't seem worth living anymore. Then you came along.

From the first time I laid eyes on you, I knew that you would be someone that would make me smile again. You had such a warm, soft look on your face that I knew there was comfort and friendship in your heart. We started out as friends and you were the rock I needed in my life. I soon began to realize that what I was feeling for you was more than a friendship... something so overwhelming and wonderful that I couldn't even believe it myself. You opened my heart to new and wonderful things! You showed me what love really is and showed me that I was worth loving.

Now, 3 years later, we are husband and wife! What I thought was love in my past, I now know was only a small taste of the love to come. You have given me hope, fulfilled dreams, and given me a reason to go on. You have helped me become a better person, a better Mom, and a better friend. You have completed me in more ways than you could ever imagine! The love you have given to me is sometimes so hard to believe that I still have to pinch myself to make sure it's really in my life!

I love you so very much, Sweetheart, always and fore

first marathon conversation

                                                        first marathon conversation


Ever since that warm September night when Fate conspired to lure us into our first marathon conversation, I have been measuring time with a melting clock from a Dali painting. My past, present, and future life have coalesced into a single paradoxical existence. I feel as though I have known you for an eternity; yet, I perceive everything I experience with you in the vibrant colors of a freshly painted dream about the future.

In one timeless month, your happiness has become essential to mine. I have turned into an avid collector of your smiles and expressions of joy, striving to expand my collection every day. The gems I have gathered illuminate my nights so brightly that nightmares no longer haunt my sleeping hours. Nothing has ever made my spirit glow as radiantly as sharing my heart and mind with you.

very special about you

                                           

                                                     very special about you
 

I have never in my life met someone more beautiful, enjoyable, loving, and comforting as you. Since the very first day that you smiled at me I knew there was something very special about you. I had no idea then that I would fall in love, but now that I have, I am so grateful. I am grateful for us to have wandered into one another's world so softly and unexpectedly. Nature took its course on our hearts and joined them in a way never imaginable.

I want you to know, that from the very depths of my heart, I love you. And I love everything that creates you, from your hair - that I wish I could play in more often... to your forehead - that I wish I could kiss while you sleep; from your eyes - that sparkle when you smile (just for me)... to your nose - that I wish I could rub my nose against; from your lips - that I just know were made perfectly to fit against mine... to your chin - that I would love to place my finger under to pull you close for a kiss; down your neck and to your heart - that in my own, I claim as mine, and down past every inch of every part of your existence.

I wish more than anything that you and I could grow together, love together, learn together, and laugh together, forever. I sincerely feel that between the two of us, we have the kind of love that some people never get a chance to experience. I promise to love you as much as I can, as best as I can, and for as long as I can. And no matter what, it's very important to me for you to know that you are an irreplaceable spirit that will always be a part of me.